Everything only lasts a season. Seasons range anywhere from 1 day to 1 year to 2 years to 5 years. But they never last forever.
My husband and I always say, “I can’t wait until we’re laughing about this later.”
Since the birth of my second child, I’ve gone through a smorgasbord of seasons. For my fellow mothers out there. These may sound familiar.
The season of no makeup, and never having my hair done. Of always accepting help, and never feeling like I can give? Of poopy diapers, and failed potty attempts? Of depression.
So how can I make it through these seasons of Motherhood with my sanity still intact?
Here are 5 TRUTHS to hold on to during any season of Motherhood(and a FREE cheat sheet link at the bottom:
1. One day, your children will rise up and call you blessed. (Proverbs 31:28)
- Why am I sacrificing everything as a Mother? Why am I doing this? Tell yourself that, over, and over again. Ask your husband or friends to remind you of this often.
2. You Are not Alone
- Never suffer alone. Don’t keep secrets. Be Honest. Be open. “There is nothing new under the sun.” (Ecclesiastes 1:9) You may feel this situation, or trial is unique to you, but odds are, someone else is either going through what you are going through, or has been through it.
- I didn’t go through postpartum with my firstborn, and to be honest, I kind of looked down on the whole idea. After all, “Christians don’t get depressed.” Right? WRONG. After my sweet girl was born, I went through some pretty bad depression. Bad mood. Bad thoughts. Bad dreams. The works. And it didn’t help that I live in Oregon where it rains all winter…and it was winter. The amazing thing, though, was that the second (and I’m not exaggerating here) I told someone about my depression, a massive burden was lifted. Why? Because they’d gone through it too! Maybe even worse than I had.
- Don’t rob someone else of their blessing of helping you!!!! That’s rewards in heaven, girl!
- Find a mentor Mom in your life. Call her up. Ask her questions. BE OPEN MINDED. If you’re 20 something or 30 something, you don’t know everything. And sometimes it feels like elder ladies’ advice sounds stupid, but WHAT IF THEYRE RIGHT??
- Google it. We live in the 21st Take it all with a grain of salt, crazy is crazy, but read enough, and you’ll land somewhere pretty close to the truth.
3. One day, you will be 60, or 70, or 80….and you will be able to help some other clueless 20 or 30 year old-something Moms.
Yayyyyyyy. Make it through these hard times to make it to that day. Finish strong.
- And if you are one of the 55+ readers that google analytics tells me is reading, THIS IS YOUR TIME. Give back what people gave to you. Adopt a younger Mom. Drop by our homes. No Mom will say no to coffee….or cookies. But seriously, we need you dearly to encourage us.
Remembering these 3 truths by themselves will get you far in motherhood. But I have to say, nothing has pushed me further than these next two truths.
4. God is a Trustworthy God.
- When He gives an impossible task to those in the Bible, He doesn’t get mad at them for telling Him that they don’t feel up to the task. What angers Him is when they don’t TRUST that HE is up to the task. That if He has tasked you with such a job, then He will provide to the fullest! That He is stronger than you think! That He has prepared you for this mission.
5. God is Good. God is able. ERR on the belief of a BIGGER GOD than you think He is.
- I’m not going to tell you that you are able. (You are) I’m not going to tell you whatever you’re going through is not a big deal (at least in that moment, it probably is) But we are not built to lean on ourselves.
- Why do we always want help? Why do we never want to be alone? Why do we want to help others? Because God created us that way.
- God created us to always need Him.
- So LEAN ON HIM. He’s already bourn your struggles on the cross. Leave it there. As my mother always said, “You do what you can do, and let Him do the rest.”
Whatever is true my dear sisters. Frame this in your house. Remember these truths. Cry out these truths. Recall the promises that are dear to your heart during this season of motherhood.
Lather, Rinse, Repeat.
FREE Cheat Sheet: Print it, Frame it, and Place these Truths to Get You Through This Season of Motherhood around the house in a high traffic area!