“I can’t do this. I can’t be a good Mom. I’m just…not.”
How often have you felt this way? Battled those thoughts in one way or another? Cried it into a pint of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream…
All of us have felt this way and may even struggle with it on a daily basis.
As a Christian, I believe that I, in fact, cannot love the way I need to unless Jesus is loving through me.
But even that takes acceptance and training. It takes repetition. Wax on, wax off.
Having a 2 and 4-year-old, I am fluent in Disney and Pixar.
And I’ve got to hand it to Pixar, they are lyrically brilliant. I don’t know how they come up with this stuff.
Listening to Moana on a daily basis gets you thinking, and gleaning, from certain aspects of her journey.
If you haven’t seen the motion picture, Moana, it is about a teenage heroin chosen from a young age to go on a voyage to conquer the ocean and bring a stolen heart back to the island Tafiti. To do this, she must go by herself on her life/spiritual journey to fulfill her destiny of bringing life back into balance – meeting trials and obstacles of various kinds, with a helper, Maui, alongside her.
There comes a point where she too hits a road block and loses all hope and courage of accomplishing her mission – she feels utterly alone.
Similar to Mufassa speaking to Simba, Moanna’s Grandmother comes and reminds Moana of who she is and what she has done. She then asks her a crucial question,
“Moana, do you know who you are?”
Moana pauses, and ponders the question, “who am I?” and goes through a list.
No, you are not trying to save an island. No, you are not Moana.
You were created special.
You were created for a purpose.
You have reached this specific place in life,
You have overcome various trials that have shaped who you are.
If you are a Mom, you have gone through the terrible pain of child birth, perhaps multiple times.
And You. Can. Do. This.
You were made for this.
You were created to love, to give, to receive, and to sacrifice for others. But you couldn’t, because you weren’t perfect, and you never will be. But God, knowing that you could never be perfect, and would always sin (lie, cheat, steal, hate, disobey authority, curse, swear, blaspheme God) sent Jesus down to Earth to sacrifice himself for all the sin that we have done and will do. And those who accept that they are sinners and need someone to step in for their judgement before the ultimate judge to plead for their cause, are gifted with a Helper to love, fused within their soul.
If you are one of these individuals who have accepted this gift, then you get to add this to the list:
I am the daughter of the King of the Universe.
I have a perfect Savior who died for me.
He died and conquered death, and that same Spirit that did that, is inside me.
I cannot love my child. I cannot lead my child. I cannot do this alone.
I am not alone. I will never be forsaken.
I cannot do this, but God can.
I have come this far, been brought to this point, and Jesus can conquer this.
Repeat this list to yourself. Keep adding to it. Create a life timeline of big events in your life that have shaped you. Look at your life timeline and see what God purposefully made you go through in order for you to keep on keeping on. It’s a great exercise!
So, who are you?
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