Am I losing my life?
You may be a new mother. Maybe you are recently pregnant. Maybe you are dating and thinking about motherhood. Or perhaps you are a Mom aged in life and experience, but still plagued by the question, am I losing my life in Motherhood?
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You wake up, squeeze in a quiet time (maybe), feed everyone – and then yourself. Do dishes. Do your daily activities. Feed everyone. Dishes. More daily activities. Feed everyone. Dishes. Bed.
Finally. Some time to yourself. Only…you’re exhausted.
You feel like you’re living in groundhog day, same thing, little variance, day in, day out.
Why would anyone live like this?
This is a question I often ask of myself.
So then I bring this question to my husband, and my mentor. (if you don’t have a mentor, please take the time and scavenge and find one. They are worth their weight in gold.)
Here is what they tell me.
WHAT YOU ARE DOING MATTERS.
The Book of Wisdom.
There is a book in the Bible called, the Book of Proverbs, aka: the Book of Wisdom. It’s written purpose is to guide the reader in wisdom and instruction. At the very end of the book is a section on “the wise woman.” This is a section quoted by a Mother, written to her son to instruct/guide him towards the ultimate woman.
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character (long quote ahead*)
10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
After I read this for the first time as a Mother, I promptly shut the book, and started bawling.
I immediately called my mentor and told her that I couldn’t be a mother. That I could not be this woman. It’s impossible.
She was very gracious and understanding. She told me that is Proverbs 31 woman was the picture of an entire lifetime of a woman.
Something to strive towards.
Something you achieve piece-by-piece, season-by-season.
What am I doing? Does any of this matter?
When you do your routine every day, your monotonous, long, exhausting routine, you are proving yourself to be TRUSTWORTHY.
When you feed your family, you are being DEPENDABLE. And adding FLAVOR to their lives.
IT IS HARD WORK.
You are “clothed with strength and dignity.”
You do not “eat the bread of idleness.”
Your children will “rise and call you blessed.”
Your husband will “praise you.”
Whether your children or husband say these things out loud does not matter – your efforts in motherhood speak for themselves.
If all you decide for your life, is that you are going to do good, then mission accomplished, here are the things that you accomplish from your one family alone
-feeding the hungry
-serving the needy
-defending the weak
-a full-time Manager
I could go on and on.
Am I losing my life as a Mother?
There. I said it. Say goodbye to life as you knew it. It’s over.
Now say hello to tomorrow.
Because this is life. Life changes every day. It will never stay the same.
It is living, breathing, ebbing, flowing, and beautiful, and hard, and raw.
“For whoever wishes to save his life [in this world] will [eventually] lose it [through death], but whoever loses his life [in this world] for My sake will find it [that is, life with Me for all eternity].” Matthew 16:25
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As Promised, here is the free printable! I hope you will gain courage every time you look at it. Just click on the link and you will be able to download it. If you liked this post, please check out some of my others, such as 10 Easy Ways to Get Out of a Bad Mood, 11 Ways to Prepare for Another Child, MOPS – A Group for Moms…with Preschoolers